Counselling Support in Self Harm

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Counselling Support

What is Self Harm?

"The Butterfly & Phoenix projects aim to equip young people to cope better with difficult circumstances, preventing them from escalating into more serious issues."

The phrase ‘self harm’ is used to describe a wide range of behaviours. Self harm is often understood to be a physical response to an emotional pain of some kind, and can be very addictive. Some of the things people do to self harm are well known, such as cutting, burning or pinching. But people also engage in ‘self destructive behaviours’ which puts them in harms way, such as getting into fights, having unprotected sex with multiple partners, not eating enough, or drinking too much alcohol.

Sometimes, it’s more important to focus on how someone is feeling rather than what they do to themselves. Quite often, people find that more helpful. Everyone has accidents from time to time resulting in cuts and bruises, but it's the injuries that are caused on purpose that are considered to be acts of self harm or destructive behaviour.

Self harm often happens during times of anger, distress, fear, worry, depression or low self-esteem in order to manage or control negative feelings.

Self harm and other forms of destructive behaviour can also be used as a form of self-punishment for something someone has done, thinks they have done, have been told by someone else that they have done, or perhaps something that they have allowed to be done to them.

Anything that causes you harm – even slight harm – which in some small way makes you feel better emotionally, can fall under the umbrella of self-harm and destructive behaviour. The important thing isn’t to focus too much on the labelling, but to recognise when help is needed and find some support as soon as possible.

To make a referral please contact us on the details below:

Contact us on Telephone: 03450 138 208

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Case Study 1

Young person was referred to our service as they were experiencing anger outbursts resulting in them punching objects, injuring themselves and the need to attend A&E on several occasions. Young person engaged in our ‘risk & resilience’ group programme and 1-2-1 counselling enabling them to explore the triggers and underlying issues relating to the frequent angry outbursts. Young person was supported to explore alternative coping strategies and healthier ways of expressing anger. Following our support the young person ceased their self-destructive behaviour.

Case Study 2

Young person referred for 1-2-1 counselling due to engaging in self-harming behaviour. Through counselling, triggers to the self-destructive behaviour; body image and associated bullying were identified. The counsellor worked with the young person to apply alternative coping mechanisms; focusing on the young person’s strengths and worked with the young person and the school on strategies for dealing with bullying. Since receiving support from the service the young person is no longer engaged in self- harming behaviours and has reported an increase in overall emotional wellbeing.

Case Study 3

Young person was referred for 1-2-1 counselling via their school as they were showing signs of reduced emotional well-being; being withdrawn and had no desire to establish any friendships and self- harming behaviour having witnessed domestic abuse in the past. The young person engaged well and was able to develop a trusting relationship with the counsellor reporting that counselling had helped them to feel safe. The young person reported an increased in emotional wellbeing, ceased self-harming and teaching staff observed the young person beginning to form friendships with peers.

Carers Lancashire

The Carers’ Hub Rochdale

Advocacy in Lancashire

Advocacy in Blackburn with Darwen

The Wirral Advocacy Hub

St Helen’s Advocacy Hub

Who can we help?

Who can we help?

We support children and young people who are

1. Aged 11-18 years old (parental consent is needed for under 13s).
2. Live in Fylde, Wyre, Preston, Chorley, South Ribble.
3. Are engaging in, or at risk of engaging in self harming and/or self destructive behaviours.
4. We work very closely with local Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) and a range of other services for children, young people and families to ensure, if we are not the right service for you, we can hep you get the support you need.

Please contact us for more information on 03450138208.

Things you might find useful

Things you might find useful

Self harm - things you might find useful

1. To find out more about Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) for children and young people in Lancashire and Blackburn with Darwen. Lancashire.nhs

2. If you are worried about a child that lives in Lancashire.

3. If you are worried about a child that lives in Blackburn with Darwen.

4. To access support for drug abuse. Young Addaction

5. To access support when someone close to you has died.

6. To access support around preventing suicide in young people. Papyrus-uk

7. To join a free weekly on-line support group for self harm. Alumina-selfharm

8. To speak to a counsellor online or over the phone about any problem you are facing.

9. To speak to someone about your problems at any time of the day or night.

10. For places to go and things to do in Lancashire, as well as information and advice on a wide range of topics such as bullying, jobs, education and training, money, sex and relationships, being a young carer, drink and drugs, leaving care in Lancashire.

11.For places to go and things to do in Blackburn with

Information, guidance and self help

1. For more information and advice for young people on mental health and wellbeing. Young minds

2. For more information and advice on self harm including real life stories and regular news updates. Self harm

3. For information and advice on a wide range of topics such as drugs & alcohol, staying safe on-line, bullying, gangs and abusive relationships. Trusted 2 know

4. For information and advice on a wide range of topics if you are a parent or carer.

5. To access training on self-harm.

6. For information on counselling standards and qualifications.


Eric was referred to the Butterfly and Phoenix project and worked with n-compass to deal with his issues. The programme was so successful for Eric, that he even appeared on Radio Lancashire. You can listen to his interview here:






“I feel great, when I think back to how it was at home, I was so scared, I felt powerless, through my work with my counsellor I felt more in control, now I am working hard at school, I don’t cut at all, I don’t drink or take drugs anymore”

“Our CCG’s have commissioned services with N Compass for approximately 12 months. We have recently increased the range of services offered with this organisation. Our CCG’s have found
n-compass to be a very professional and well governed organisation.”

“Fantastic and easily approachable staff. Referrals are picked up promptly and the young people really value the support that is offered and how flexible the support is e.g. both in and out of school. Staff are always helpful and at the end of the phone. Great service’’
CAMHS Professional

"Hodgson Academy are supported by the Butterfly/Phoenix project on a regular basis by the counsellors on the service. We find the worker's support invaluable and our students definitely benefit from their input. We have really seen a difference in the students who have accessed the service."